It is the beginning of 2022! Everyone of us starts to do reflection from last year and set a goal for this year. Here I am going to share my humble thoughts with you about my personal life. In the past, I have learned two important life lessons!
Firstly, don't simply accept the idea or suggestions from your friends. Believe yourself. Nowadays, it is very convenient to acquire information. Here is my example. I am curious about should I work for money or passion? How can we find a lifelong career? I go ask my friends. Friend A says, work for money! Money can buy happiness! Friend T says,we should love our work, work with passion! I am confused because both of them has their idea.
Then I go search the question from google. In the new era of AI and smartphones, you can just get what you what with your fingertip. Does it help me clear my doubt? Not really! I try to read the answer online and every comment has its thoughts in life. I spend whole hours to find out whether I should work for money or work for passion. But I fail to discover the correct answer. I lost in the ocean of information. I am doubtful and confused. In the past two years, I am fear of missing out. I have self-doubt if I pursue a life that against the mainstream of society. Therefore, I try to ask my friend or search online to find out how to work. Unfortunately, there is no right or wrong answer to how to live.
If you don't have self-belief, you will lose easily in the ocean of information. I am a minimalist who likes peace and working for others. I believe in karma. I believe a good life is a life that lives for others. However, sometimes I doubt my beliefs when I live in this capitalist society. It is undeniable that nowadays the 90's encounter the challenges of living. the speed of salary increment is slower than the inflation rate of a country. They work so hard but they don't have the luxury to enjoy life. They become a robot without souls and work to earn an income to feed their beloved families. They don't have a choice to figure out what they truly what and pursue their dream. I am the 90's too, I can feel it. Although life is difficult, it means that I should work for money to have a good life? this question is not easy to answer. I believe that controlling my desire and focusing on helping others is a key to having a good life. Now I am very proud of myself because I can eat simple and live simple!
Secondly, inject beautiful life moments in your life when you are middle of pursuing your dream and career. Everyday I rush to work, stuck in traffic congestion,have a quick dinner after work, work hard for deadlines or work for side hustle and then sleep. I rush because I am worried about wasting time, I always feel that not enough time. Time is too fast! When I am stuck in the middle of thinking of something,time has passed. I neglect the people around me because I feel it is wasting of time. I always think that it is always worth that to invest time to do something that can bring money to life. Why don't do something to earn more money? I always think about it. Doing something that is not earning money seems like wasting of time. I feel frustrated if I am free and doing nothing. I do not allow myself to enjoy life. I am stuck with this emotion since I was studying at university. My mind keeps rushing for learning, working hard because of worry lacking behind my friend and moving forward without allowing myself to rest. After a certain period , I feel that my life is not satisfied because my mind is occupied by work,stress and results. I feel lost when I am free. I realise that I have a scarcity mindset. I have constant feelings in a rush. As an employee, I feel that I have little amount of time of pursuing my dream. Imagine I work 8 hours a day, 2 hours in traffic , time for sleep and rest, how many hours that I left for my time?
Not much actually. I only have a few hours each day to learn and study. It is too tired to learn in this small little amount of time. If I can't get the reward, I feel that I am wasting time and start to give up my effort. Nobody can guarantee I can get the monetary reward. It may get after a few years, it may not. I take this uncertainty as an excuse to stop learning after work.
After I am doing some research, I realise that it takes time to see the results from your consistency of good habits. It does not necessarily bring the monetary reward but you can become a better self, gain a new friendship and increase the probability of success. I am trying to make difficult habits attractive and relate with positive experiences about life.
Example:
1. I clean my house to create a comfortable environment
2. I learn how to code to solve real-world problems to improve
effciency and optimize the process flow.
3. I exercise to keep me stay young, attractive and energetic.
4. I learn public speaking to improve my confidence to share knowledge with others.
Life is unfair sometimes. Is this an excuse to stop working hard on something you fight or passionate about? Think about it.
Now I am learning to spend some time with nature, talk to my family ,do some household catch up with old friends while in the middle of working hard. Take a deep breath to slow down the time feeling. Appreciate the beautiful moments in our lives and made our life happier. Focus on well-being instead of purpose.
Here are the key takeaways from these blogs: Believe yourself and don't follow others. Create more beautiful life moment in your life, Slow down your time and feel it. Wish you have a fulfilled and happy 2022!
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